Is Your Inner Child Running the Show? 

Have you ever had an urge that felt so intense you thought you might actually die if you didn’t give in? Like suddenly finding yourself at the bottom of an empty ice cream tub, dazed and wondering, “Wait… how did I get here?” 

That’s not your intuition.

That’s your inner child — in full-blown candy shop meltdown mode.

The nature of deep healing and expanding your conscious relationship with your body includes questioning everything you’ve been taught about health, food, self-care… even your own cravings.

Intuition is the act of being present with your body. It’s the art of listening to what your whole self truly needs — body, mind, and soul. But here’s the twist: most of us were never taught how to self-regulate as children.

So what happens?

We grow up, but parts of us stay stuck in toddler mode — especially the parts that learned to cope by seeking comfort through food, distractions, or numbing behaviors.

Why You Can’t Outrun the Urges

When you were little, if no one modeled how to be with your big feelings — how to stay with the anger, the sadness, the fear — then your nervous system wired itself to avoid them. You learned to soothe with whatever worked in the moment: sugar, people-pleasing, control, Netflix.

These are more than just bad habits. They’re survival strategies. 

And according to Dr. Joe Dispenza’s research, your body becomes so habituated to these emotional patterns that they turn into subconscious programs running on autopilot. When you experience an urge, it’s often not about the cookie or the glass of wine — it’s about the familiar chemical cocktail of emotion your body has learned to crave. He writes, “The moment you decide to no longer think the same way, act the same way, or live by the same emotions… get ready, because you’re going to step into the river of change.”

And that river? It’s uncomfortable. It’s full of little inner children screaming for their candy.

The Inner Child & the Nervous System

Recent neuroscience has shown us that the ability to regulate your nervous system — moving from fight, flight, freeze into calm presence — is not just emotional. It’s physiological. And for many of us, it’s a skill we never got to fully learn as children.

When your nervous system is dysregulated, your inner child can hijack your mind and body in an instant. You feel impulsive. You disconnect. You react instead of respond. And without awareness, you keep reinforcing the belief that you’re out of control.

But here’s the good news — you can rewire it.

Massage therapy, for example, is more than a luxury. It’s a proven way to activate the parasympathetic nervous system — the “rest and digest” state where deep healing and self-awareness can finally emerge. It creates a safe space for your inner child to relax so that your adult self — your future self — can lead.

From Inner Child to Inner Healer

When you’re making decisions from the wounded child, everything feels urgent, reactive, and survival-based. But when you parent yourself with compassion and presence, your choices shift. You begin to choose nourishment over numbing. Presence over panic. Stillness over stress.

This is where Quan Yin, the embodiment of divine compassion, becomes a powerful ally.

Quan Yin doesn’t shame the inner child. She kneels beside her. Holds her gently. But — and this is the key — she doesn’t let her drive the bus. 

You are allowed to have compassion for your pain and still choose to lead from your higher self.

Want to experience that shift in real time?

Try my Quan Yin Healing Meditation — it’s available now for free in my meditation library. This gentle practice helps you meet your inner child with loving kindness, while aligning you with your future self — the one who knows how to care for your body, your boundaries, and your beliefs.

👉 Click here for your free meditation trial.

Ready to Come Back into Your Body?

If you’re ready to stop reacting and start rewiring — your journey begins with the body.

A massage session isn’t just a treat. It’s a trauma-informed, body-based reset. It’s a place where your nervous system can learn safety, and your inner child can feel seen, soothed, and no longer in charge.

✨ Book your session now and begin the journey back to yourself. ✨

Because healing doesn’t start in your head — it starts in your body.